“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” ~Mark Twain
I am in serious danger, and I think you might be too.
I am in danger of becoming a grumpy old person. I get angry easily. I operate on a short fuse, ready to snap or explode at the littlest thing.
I could blame it on a combination of genetics and environment. My father seems to have only two moods, and one of them is angry.
He is like a volcano and can explode at any moment. And I don’t mean he’s just cranky or that he yells.
No. When he loses it, he really loses it. Emotionally and physically.
He tenses every muscle in his body, clenches his fists, sticks his jaw out, and says things like, “Eeeoourgh!!!”
He is a fireball of white-hot fury. Irrational, unreasonable, and perverse.
As a child, I never knew whether I would be hugged or hit. I desperately wanted his approval and love, but often I incurred his wrath.
As a teenager, I learned to fight back, yell as loudly, and be as demanding as he was. As an adult, I learned two key components that comprise anger.
There’s the emotion that can envelope you in a moment, instantly causing you to become irrational and almost uncontrollable. And there are the situations or environments that have the potential to lead to anger, if we let them.
I could let anger rule my life, but I refuse to do that, damn it! So I employ some simple anger management techniques instead.
I am still in serious danger, but with these tools, I think I’ve found a way out.